Lately I’ve been finding more and more people who struggle to listen from moment to moment. It’s not that they don’t want to listen. I suspect they do but for whatever reason, they just struggle to give you the attention you deserve.
You can tell by the roadsigns:
-jumping on your words
-asking you something about something you already said
-changing the subject altogether
Now that you can identify the signs of someone who isn’t listening, what can you do about it?
This is tricky because you’ll have to walk a fine line between:
- adjusting to their “hearing style” and
- watering down what you have to say
Here’s what I mean- when I run into someone who has wandering eyes, I’ll try to be more brief, knowing that their attention span is limited. There may be times when you’ll have to correct someone and bring their focus of eyes and ears towards you.
The key is this: figure out if they are listening and maximize your message. In addition, strive to be a person who gives 100% of your attention to whomever is speaking. This is an act of respect and a habit that takes practice.